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exboyfriend from way back

Posted January 30th, 2010 by Meowzer

Feel weird posting this but so full of confusion and this a bit long, so I will try.

Went on and off with my exboyfriend back home for 5 1/2 yrs, I left for the military. He would always wait for the last minute and just before I left for the military, overseas, we were together. When I got to my duty assignment I waited for him to write, again wait. So even though I wasn't interested, I met someone.

This new guy we fell in love instantly, and my exbf wrote claiming his feelings, writing poems to me, the masculine man saying his deep feelings, but it was too late. Within a few months I came back home to get married. My exbf met me a few times, I told him I recently found out I was pregnant. Whirlwind. He was so upset.

Anyways through my marriage I would hear from my exbf, he asked me once if I could pick the same place as him, which I did but lied. He tried to see if fate I guess should be together. We always cared for each other through the years, he would contact but we never saw each other.

After almost 15 yrs of marriage my husband started to cheat on me, didn't know for sure at at that same time I saw my exbf in a hotel room in a nearby city back home, (it was late I was on a business trip). I told him "not even if you took off all your clothes" and he did, but I turned away. Even though I wasn't happy I couldn't.

Just before he left he made me hug him again and he wouldn't let go telling me to kiss him on the cheek. I wouldn't. Just before that, he told me that he would always love me. He was living with a girl and bought a house with her.

Well I found my ex was cheating on me, I told my exbf, he said "you coming back home?" I said no. Well that was almost two years ago that I saw him. I talk to him here and there, but a little cold, he asked stupid stuff like "you naked" blah. Could be just playing...

But he now proposed to his girlfriend at Christmas in 08, and I am divorced. I went back home for Christmas, he never met up with me, same story waits until last minute and thinks I can see him. When I talked to him and he said did you see that movie, Serendipity? I said a long time ago....he said pick a time and place and let's see if it is the same. Well I did pick the place not the time. But that place is gone now....

Well now I am moving back home in June with my youngest daughter. He has a son same age, and he never married. Why?

I found a pic online of him and his girlfriend he looks so miserable. She has this big smile and holding him and he is like take the picture and his arms are in front of him.

Also found out that it isn't official but they are planning on getting married in August. My good friend said I should tell the girl that he is how he is, flirting and not ready. He said he wasn't ready. He also said I should met up with my ex and kiss him and see how we feel.

While I didn't want to play the games, I texted before I left my hometown that I would always love him and always miss him. He didn't say anything. I know he does things out of convenience but I am torn.

Should I just weight and see if he contacts me again? Should even dare to tell his gf that he is just settling? I just don't know.

This is the guy who has all these songs for me, he even did the boombox thing to me from that movie Say Anything. But this was years ago. I lost my self esteem, gained some weight, and just don't want the drama....but should I just let him be?

sorry for so long. It is almost seems like a movie, a long lost love. So please give opinions.....