ok so a few years back my father died and everyone thought that i had gotten over it, or at least worked through it. truth is that i havent gotten over it or even tried to start working through it... sometimes i still think that hes alive and coming home.. then i remember that he's dead and never coming home.. is there something wrong with me?? is this normal??? who can i talk to about my problem???
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bigfan said:
very normal -- NOT thinking of your father and having his presence in your like would be less mormal
Shy said:
Hi Justagirl179
Well I haven't had a father die, but my brother died around 10 years ago at around 25, I can tell you it took me a good 5 years to stop thinking about him everyday, dreaming about him every night and even now if I get stressed or upset he comes back into my thoughts...
One thing that kinda gives me peace is knowing if there is a heaven then your father will be waiting to greet you, thus dieing one day isn't so bad if that makes sense?
I would say it is totally normal, other people find it hard to talk as they don't know nothing half the time! I would seek out a counciller perhaps or speak to people with simular problems.
How old are you? as makes a difference on age too I think.
Shy said:
im 20.. he died when i was 16
justagirl79 said:
^ that was me
WildCat said:
There is nothing wrong wit u. ur gettin through it da best way u know how but dont worry ur not da only one wit dis problem
Jaysmine said:
MY DAD DIED 2 YRS AGO ALSO AND I STILL HAVENT STOP THINKING OF HIM
MAYBE U NEED TO TALK TO A COUNCLER OR A TRUSTED FRIEND!
ashley-ox said:
this is normal, i still think my Grandma is going to be at her house when i go visit my Granddad. Its better that you still think of him and that this could be your own way of being with him even though he is no longer here.
whyme said:
The passing of of a parent is hard and most times a child never recovers. And it comes in waves some days nothing will bother you and you get through it fine other days the smell of something will send you into a whirlwind of depression and loneliness. This never goes away yes never. You have to find a place in you mind that gives you the felling of missing him without the regret of losing him. This is easy to say and yes it is very difficult to do. My dad loved fresh baked cookies but I still have to bake and sometimes I set one aside for him. I know he can not eat it but it is their and one day without thinking about it i toss it in the trash. Does not mean next time I bake I will not do it again. It just at that moment I could let go. BUt it does get better you just have to find a way to let it take its own course.
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